At 16, during a volleyball stint in California, he tried out for the US youth national team – the start of “an unexpected, surreal dream. Where I’m from, it was just unheard of,” he says. He cites sitting in his father’s car, and receiving the call from BYU Utah, offering him a full-time scholarship to study design and play volleyball. “Also, I wasn’t the quintessential football or baseball guy. So to be recognised for being who I wanted to be, and for my family to have a sense of pride, it was worth all the bullying [I had experienced at high school].”
Life moved rapidly for Benjamin. Since graduating, he played in Italy's and Germany’s professional leagues, whilst also starring on the US men’s national team. In Calabria, Italy’s sun-baked region of old-fashioned villages and dramatic coastline, he learned the language to assimilate, but still felt othered. “As my queerness became more apparent, it was hard for me to live in a community without much contemporary thinking,” he notes. After a serendipitous move to Berlin’s Recycling Volleys in 2018, he came out personally, but also publicly, by accident. “[In Berlin], nothing seemed obtrusive; the streets, the buildings, the trees, everything made sense. It was a spiritual feeling of, this is where you are supposed to be. It felt like home in a way that there was just this ease,” he says. In October 2020, in an interview with the local newspaper Tagesspiegel, he mused about Berlin’s width to express himself as a queer man. Benjamin became the first active and openly queer player in a German men's professional sports league.
A Cancer that shines in the spotlight yet hides in his shell, too, Benjamin didn’t relish the attention at first. “But it turned into a really great platform that has helped a lot of young people and active athletes and which I get to proudly carry with me forever.” Last year, at the age of 28 and the height of his career, his volleyball exit made headlines, too. “I gave it all, and it gave me what it could – it was time to build something else,” he says about reconnecting with his primary love and the foundation of be.assembly, his interior design studio. For people to accept his new identity, he had to move on himself; today, mentorship is his only role in volleyball. “In sports, [sexuality-related] taboos are slowly breaking. If I can help shape that shift for younger generations, so it’s not an issue when they come of age, that would be great.”